Improve your body language….

1. Don’t cross your arms or legs

You have probably already heard you shouldn cross your arms as it might make you seem defensive or guarded. This goes for your legs too. Keep your arms and legs open.

2. Have eye contact, but don stare

If there are several people you are talking to, give them all some eye contact to create a better connection and see if they are listening. Keeping too much eye-contact might creep people out. Giving no eye-contact might make you seem insecure. If you are not used to keeping eye-contact it might feel a little hard or scary in the beginning but keep working on it and you™ll get used to it.

3. Don’t be afraid to take up some space

Taking up space by for example sitting or standing with your legs apart a bit signals self-confidence and that you are comfortable in your own skin.

4. Relax your shoulders

When you feel tense it easily winds up as tension in your shoulders. They might move up and forward a bit. Try to relax. Try to loosen up by shaking the shoulders a bit and move them back slightly.

5. Nod when they are talking

nod once in a while to signal that you are listening. But don overdo it and peck like Woody Woodpecker.

6. Don’t slouch, sit up straight

but in a relaxed way, not in a too tense manner.

7. Lean, but not too much

If you want to show that you are interested in what someone is saying, lean toward the person talking. If you want to show that you™re confident in yourself and relaxed lean back a bit. But don lean in too much or you might seem needy and desperate for some approval. Or lean back too much or you might seem arrogant and distant.

8. Smile and laugh

lighten up, don take yourself too seriously. Relax a bit, smile and laugh when someone says something funny. People will be a lot more inclined to listen to you if you seem to be a positive person. But don be the first to laugh at your own jokes, it makes you seem nervous and needy. Smile when you are introduced to someone but don keep a smile plastered on your face, you™ll seem insincere.

9. Don’t touch your face

it might make you seem nervous and can be distracting for the listeners or the people in the conversation.

10. Keep you head up -

Don keep your eyes on the ground, it might make you seem insecure and a bit lost. Keep your head up straight and your eyes towards the horizon.

11. Slow down a bit

this goes for many things. Walking slower not only makes you seem more calm and confident, it will also make you feel less stressed. If someone addresses you, don snap you™re neck in their direction, turn it a bit more slowly instead.

12. Don’t fidget

try to avoid, phase out or transform fidgety movement and nervous ticks such as shaking your leg or tapping your fingers against the table rapidly. You™ll seem nervous and fidgeting can be a distracting when you try to get something across.. Declutter your movements if you are all over the place. Try to relax, slow down and focus your movements.

13. Use your hands more confidently

instead of fidgeting with your hands and scratching your face use them to communicate what you are trying to say. Use your hands to describe something or to add weight to a point you are trying to make. But don use them to much or it might become distracting. And don let your hands flail around, use them with some control.

14. Lower your drink

don hold your drink in front of your chest. In fact, don hold anything in front of your heart as it will make you seem guarded and distant. Lower it and hold it beside your leg instead.

15. Realise where you spine ends

many people (including me until recently) might sit or stand with a straight back in a good posture. However, they might think that the spine ends where the neck begins and therefore crane the neck forward in a Montgomery Burns-pose. Your spine ends in the back of your head. Keep you whole spine straight and aligned for better posture.

16. Don’t stand too close

one of the things we learned from Seinfeld is that everybody gets weirded out by a close-talker. Let people have their personal space, don invade it.

17. Mirror -

Often when you get along with a person, when the two of you get a good connection, you will start to mirror each other unconsciously. That means that you mirror the other person body language a bit. To make the connection better you can try a bit of proactive mirroring. If he leans forward, you might lean forward.. If she holds her hands on her thighs, you might do the same. But don react instantly and don mirror every change in body language. Then weirdness will ensue.

18. Keep a good attitude

last but not least, keep a positive, open and relaxed attitude. How you feel will come through in your body language and can make a major difference. For information on how make yourself feel better read 10 ways to change how you feel and for relaxation try A very simple way to feel relaxed for 24 hours.

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When somebody criticizes you don’t worry, Stones are generally thrown only at tree full of fruits !!!

Mother I Hate You !!

Dear all,

Mother is the best People Manager in this contemporary world I have ever seen. She manages everything in the for fulfillment of children’s need. While doing these activities, she was never found getting stressed or tired. Despite this hectic mundane schedule, she could always find more time for her children. Her joy knew no bounds when she sees her children in more happiness and joy.

Here is a beautiful story and I am sure you will like it.

Best regards,

My mom only had one eye. I hated her… she was such an embarrassment.
She cooked for students & teachers to support the family.

There was this one day during elementary school where my mom came to say hello to me.

I was so embarrassed.

How could she do this to me?
I ignored her, threw her a hateful look and ran out.

The next day at school one of my classmates said, “EEEE, your mom only has one eye!”

I wanted to bury myself.
I also wanted my mom to just disappear.
I confronted her that day and said, ” If you’re only go make me a laughing stock, why don’t you just die?”

My mom did not respond…
I didn’t even stop to think for a second about what I had said, because I was full of anger.
I was oblivious to her feelings.

I wanted out of that house, and have
nothing to do with her.
So I studied real hard, got a chance to go abroad to study..
Then, I got married.
I bought a house of my own.
I had kids of my own.
I was happy with my life, my kids and the comforts. Then one day, my mother came to visit me.

She hadn’t seen me in years and she didn’t even meet her grandchildren.

When she stood by the door, my children laughed at her, and I yelled at her for coming over uninvited.
I screamed at her, “How dare you come to my house and scare my children!”
GET OUT OF HERE! NOW!!!”

And to this, my mother quietly answered, “Oh, I’m so sorry. I may have gotten the wrong address,” and she disappeared out of sight.

One day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house.
So I lied to my wife that I was going on a business trip.
After the reunion, I went to the old shack just out of curiosity.

My neighbors said that she died.
I did not shed a single tear.
They handed me a letter that she had wanted me to have.

“My dearest son,
I think of you all the time. I’m sorry that I came to your house and scared your children.
I was so glad when I heard you were coming for the reunion.
But I may not be able to even get out of bed to see you..
I’m sorry that I was a constant embarrassment to you when you were growing up.

You see……..when you were very little, you got into an accident, and lost your eye.
As a mother, I couldn’t stand watching you having to grow up with one eye.
So I gave you mine.
I was so proud of my son who was seeing a whole new world for me, in my place, with that eye.

With all my love to you,
Your mother.

Winner Vs Looser………….

Winners have dreams;
Losers have schemes.

Winners see the gains;
Losers see the pain.

Winners see the potential;
Losers see the past.

Winners make it happen;
Losers let it happen.

Winners see possibilities;
Losers see problems.

Winners makes commitments;
Losers makes promises.

Winners are a part of the team;
Losers are apart from the team.

Winner always has a programme;
Loser always has an excuse.

Winner says “Let me do it for you”;
Loser says “That is not my job”.

Winners say “I must do something”;
Losers say “Something must be done”.

Winner is always a part of the answer;
Loser is always a part of the problem.

Winner sees an answer for every problem;
Loser sees a problem for every answer.

Winners believe in win/win;
Loser believe for them to win, someone has to lose.

Winner says “It may be difficult but it is possible”;
Loser says “It may be possible but it is too difficult”.

Winner makes a mistake. he says “I was wrong”;
Loser makes a mistake, he says “It wasn’t my fault”.

So…Try toBe a Winner …Always